Although you may feel trapped, angry, and afraid, stay calm and don’t run. These feelings are normal but remember you are not alone. She may be feeling these same things. The more you panic and run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly. You need to stay calm and support each other through this situation.
She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you, too.
Get the Facts
Get all the information and seek wise counsel so that together you can make the best decision for both of you. Don’t just accept solutions you want to hear. This is a situation where your decisions affect at least three lives.
Talk About It
Be sure to talk about the situation in a caring way and clear your mind and listen to what she is saying. Try to understand her feelings. Typically men want to offer solutions. Sometimes women just need you to listen. Be prepared to communicate with her and her parents or other people close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.
This is a team effort, so work together and make decisions as a team. Pressuring her into a decision based on what you want may drive her to make a regrettable decision.
Facing the possibility of an unplanned pregnancy can be difficult and we are here to help guide you through this process. The first step is for you to find out whether she is really pregnant and learn about your options. We offer free pregnancy testing and information to help you make an informed decision. To help show your support come with her to her pregnancy test appointment. Having your support will reassure her that you care and that she is not alone.
We also have many resources available to help you in a variety of ways should she be pregnant. For more information on these resources click here.
Remember, although the decision is ultimately hers to make, your input is valuable and may have an influence on the decision she makes. You should express your thoughts and opinions but you should never force her into a decision. This is your chance to stand up and take part in your pregnant partner’s life. She needs to know that you care and you are ready to walk through this with her.
To make an appointment to discuss your options or for more information about our services please contact us.